It's funny how loads of people have an opinion on what is best for YOUR child. Although you spend most of your time - 24/7 - with your children, you obviously don't know what is best for them... right? Or maybe not that right. Like for example giving your baby fruit or even worse sweets right before dinner. Hm, I wonder how much dinner that kid will eat? Or trying to put babies to sleep: normally parents have a routine for that and especially when they are babies or toddlers, it is good to stick to that routine. Just imagine for yourself, if you are overstimulated or overtired, how easy is it to fall asleep? If you don't have quiet around you or if your surroundings are different, it probably isn't that easy to relax. But still people have opinions. 'Oh just keep them awake for another hour? WE want to cuddle them!' and similar sentences.. well you aren't the one trying later to get them to fall asleep and you need an hour more? Or put the babies asleep crying? No one should fall asleep crying. Ever.
Why can't people just respect the parents and especially the mothers (in the baby-phase, as we, as I said before, spend 24/7 with the babies) point of view and wishes in child care and education? In my case, as we haven't made the best experiences in hygiene and with infections etc, I am extreme with sick people being around my babies. I just don't want it and I think people should respect it. Can't be that hard, right? But still, although I point it out and say this to everyone with a cold, they pick up a baby or pat it on the head and so on. I came back from Clara's grave yesterday, to find Alice in the teenagers arms. Although she had no voice and felt to bad the day before to even take the dog out. So my reaction wasn't exactly mild. I took both babies with me into the bedroom and basically burst into tears. Imagine my mindset after returning from the grave. Why not just respect my wishes in this question? I don't want it, so don't do it. Full stop. I am not loosing one more child to some stupidness. I am just not taking any risks or discussions on the matter.
Just mind your own business and do what you think is appropriate with your children and I'll do the same with mine. I think that makes us all happy at the end. And for good advice: provide it if you are asked for it. As you know I am very fond of asking my blog readers for advice and I am thankful for you taking your time to answer me. In 98% of the cases I use it and in 2% I adapt it to our needs. Perfect!
Just look at the picture below with my girls sleeping. Aren't they quite identical?
